Breaking Through the Most Frustrating Limitation: Purpose & Why You Are Here

If you’ve ever felt stuck, uncertain, or frustrated because you don’t know your purpose—you’re not alone. In Episode 160 of The Impossible Life Podcast, Garrett Unclebach and Nick Surface unpack the deep tension men feel when they’re unsure why they’re here, and more importantly, how to break through that limitation.

This episode isn’t just theory—it’s a roadmap. If you’re tired of drifting and ready to live with focus, meaning, and conviction, keep reading.

The #1 Limitation Holding Men Back

Most men don’t lack potential—they lack clarity. The most frustrating limitation isn’t lack of talent or opportunity. It’s not knowing your purpose.

“When a man doesn’t know why he’s here, everything becomes confusing.”
—Garrett Unclebach

Without purpose:

• Your work feels empty

• Your relationships feel surface-level

• Your spiritual life feels aimless

But once purpose is unlocked? Everything changes.

Purpose Is Not a Job Title—It’s a Calling

Many men chase career changes or status upgrades, thinking that will solve the internal tension. But as Garrett and Nick explain, purpose isn’t about what you do—it’s about who you are and why you exist.

“You’re not here by accident. You’re created on purpose, for a purpose.”
—Nick Surface

That purpose doesn’t shift with seasons or circumstances. It’s rooted in God’s design for your life.

3 Truths You Must Embrace to Discover Your Purpose

Garrett and Nick walk through three foundational truths that must shape your identity if you’re going to break through the barrier of purposelessness:

1. You Are a Son of God

Before you try to figure out what to do, you have to know who you are.

“If you don’t know who you are, you’ll never know what to do.”
—Garrett Unclebach

When you live from your identity as a son—not a slave, not a worker—you stop striving for worth and start walking in authority.

Action Step: Spend time daily reminding yourself of this truth: “I am a son of God, fully loved and fully called.”

2. You Were Made to Know God and Reflect Him

Your purpose begins with relationship. You weren’t created to just grind and perform. You were created to know God deeply and reflect His character boldly.

“Your calling flows from your connection.”
—Nick Surface

If you’re disconnected from God, your purpose will always feel unclear.

Action Step: Prioritize presence. Make time for prayer, worship, and the Word—not as a checklist, but as a lifeline.

3. You Were Sent to Make a Difference

You’re not here to take up space. You’re here to build, lead, and transform the world around you through obedience and influence.

“God put something in you that the world needs—but it doesn’t come out without pressure and pursuit.”
—Garrett Unclebach

Purpose isn’t about platform. It’s about impact—wherever God has placed you.

Action Step: Look at your current environment and ask, “Where can I serve, lead, and reflect God right now?”

The Power of Asking Better Questions

One of the most overlooked tools for discovering purpose is the questions you ask.

Most people ask:
❌ What job should I take?
❌ What’s my passion?

Instead, start asking:
✅ Who am I called to serve?
✅ What problem was I created to solve?
✅ Where do I see brokenness that stirs my spirit?

“Great lives are built by asking great questions.”
—Nick Surface

Don’t Wait for Clarity—Act Into It

The myth is that you need perfect clarity before you act. But Garrett and Nick flip that idea: clarity often comes through action.

“You don’t think your way into purpose. You act your way into it.”
—Garrett Unclebach

Start serving. Start building. Start obeying the last thing God told you. Movement reveals mission.

Practical Action Plan: Break Through the Purpose Barrier

✅ Own Your Identity – Start with who God says you are
✅ Pursue God’s Presence – Let purpose be birthed from relationship
✅ Take Action Where You Are – Don’t wait for a stage—start with your circle
✅ Ask Better Questions – Dig deeper than titles and tasks
✅ Commit Long-Term – Purpose unfolds over time, not in a weekend

Final Thought: You Were Made for More

Your frustration isn’t a problem—it’s a signal. It’s telling you that you were created for something bigger, deeper, and more meaningful than comfort or survival.

“When you know why you’re here, life gets loud with clarity.”
—Garrett Unclebach

This is your moment to stop drifting and start building. Don’t wait for perfect direction. Start moving with obedience, faith, and focus—and your purpose will rise to meet you.

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