Changing Your Identity Story: How to Rewrite Your Future Starting Today

The story you tell yourself about who you are shapes everything. In Episode 194 of The Impossible Life Podcast, Garrett Unclebach and Nick Surface unpack how to change your identity story and rewrite the future you were designed to live.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in old patterns or limited by past mistakes, this is your wake-up call. It’s time to rewrite your story—and step into your God-given identity.

Why Your Identity Story Matters

The story you believe about yourself determines how you think, act, and live. It’s not just a mental narrative—it’s the operating system behind your choices, relationships, and future.

“Your story either propels you into purpose or keeps you stuck in your past.”
—Garrett Unclebach

If you’re stuck in an identity based on shame, failure, or fear, you’ll keep repeating the same patterns. Changing your identity story is the key to changing your life.

Three Reasons Most People Stay Stuck in the Wrong Story

Garrett and Nick explain why most people don’t change their identity story—even when they want to.

1. They Believe Lies Over Truth

They listen to old narratives—failure, rejection, worthlessness—instead of what God says about them.

2. They Don’t Know How to Rewrite the Story

They’re stuck because they don’t have a practical plan to shift their mindset and belief system.

3. They Haven’t Taken Responsibility

They wait for external validation instead of taking ownership of their internal narrative.

“You have to take full responsibility for your story, no matter who wrote the first chapters.”
—Nick Surface

The Truth About Your Identity in Christ

Your true identity isn’t based on your performance, your past, or other people’s opinions. It’s rooted in what God says about you.

“You are a son of God, loved, chosen, and created on purpose for a purpose.”
—Garrett Unclebach

Knowing who you are in Christ gives you the authority and confidence to rewrite your identity story.

How to Rewrite Your Identity Story: 3 Practical Steps

Step 1: Recognize the Old Story

You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge.

• What lies have you believed about yourself?

• What negative identity labels have you accepted?

• Where have you allowed your past to define you?

Action Step: Write down every false identity label you’ve carried.

Step 2: Replace Lies with Truth

Once you recognize the old story, replace it with God’s truth.

• You are forgiven (1 John 1:9)

• You are chosen (Ephesians 1:4)

• You are loved (Romans 5:8)

• You are called (2 Timothy 1:9)

Action Step: Write down three truth statements about your identity. Speak them out loud every morning.

Step 3: Reinforce the New Story with Action

You rewrite your story by living like it’s true.

• Act like a man who’s forgiven.

• Lead like a man who’s chosen.

• Love like a man who’s called to greatness.

“You don’t just tell a new story—you live it daily until it becomes real.”
—Garrett Unclebach

Action Step: Make one decision today that aligns with your new identity story.

Why This Matters: Your Identity Shapes Your Legacy

When you change your identity story, you don’t just change your life—you change your family, your legacy, and your impact on the world.

“If you don’t change your story, you’ll pass down the wrong story to the next generation.”
—Nick Surface

Practical Action Plan: Change Your Story Today

✅ Recognize the old story—what lies have you believed?
✅ Replace it with God’s truth—what does God say about you?
✅ Reinforce the new story daily—with your words, actions, and mindset.
✅ Write your new story down—review it every morning.
✅ Surround yourself with people who believe in your new story.

Final Thought: Your Future Is Bigger Than Your Past

No matter what’s behind you, your future can be greater. But you have to change the story you tell yourself about who you are.

“You’re not stuck because of your past—you’re stuck because you keep telling the wrong story. Change the story, and you change your life.”
—Garrett Unclebach

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