3 Ways to Kill Your Destiny: Disobedience, Comfort, and Fear

You were made for purpose. You were designed for greatness.
But not everyone fulfills their destiny—and it’s not because God fails.
It’s because we do.

In Ep. 212 | 3 Ways to Kill Your Destiny, Garrett and Nick sound the alarm on the subtle choices that sabotage men’s lives. This episode doesn’t pull punches—it delivers a sobering truth: you can waste your life even while believing in God.

“Destiny is not guaranteed. It’s possible to miss what God had for you.” — Garrett

Drawing from biblical stories, military experience, and hard-learned lessons, this episode breaks down the 3 most common traps that derail your purpose: disobedience, comfort, and fear.

1. Disobedience: The Fastest Way to Miss the Mark

Disobedience is rebellion, even when it’s small.

We often justify it:

• “It’s not a big deal.”

• “God understands.”

• “I’ll do it later.”

But destiny demands obedience—not when it’s convenient, but when it’s commanded.

Garrett shares a story from SEAL training about failing a critical task. Not because of outright defiance, but because he followed the instruction instead of the intent behind it. That failure taught him a life lesson:

“Obedience isn’t just doing what you’re told—it’s understanding the mission behind the words.”

God wants more than compliance. He wants hearts aligned with His will.

Bible Example: King Saul

1 Samuel 15 reveals how Saul’s partial obedience cost him the throne.
He spared what God told him to destroy.
He offered sacrifices God didn’t ask for.
And then he blamed others.

God’s response?
“Because you have rejected the word of the Lord, He has rejected you as king.”

Disobedience doesn’t delay destiny—it can destroy it.

2. Comfort & Selfishness: The Silent Killers

Destiny isn’t found in ease. It’s forged in sacrifice.
But comfort whispers, “You deserve this.”
It offers rest without responsibility.
It disguises self-centeredness as self-care.

Nick breaks down how this mindset shows up subtly:

• You stop pushing when it gets hard.

• You let others carry your weight.

• You start asking, “When is it going to be about me?”

“The moment you start asking that question is the moment destiny begins to die.” — Nick

The truth? Destiny requires dying to self.

Bible Example: The Rich Young Ruler

In Mark 10, Jesus invites a man into eternal purpose. But the man walks away. Why?
He had great wealth—and he wasn’t willing to let go of his comfort.

“You can’t follow Jesus and cling to comfort. The path is narrow—and it’s costly.” — Garrett

3. Fear: The Most Respectable Excuse

Fear wears a mask:

• “I’m being cautious.”

• “It’s not the right time.”

• “What will people think?”

But at its root, fear is distrust in God.
It trades calling for control.
It sacrifices destiny on the altar of approval.

“You can’t fear God and fear man. One will always win.” — Garrett

Bible Example: The 10 Spies

In Numbers 13, the Israelites send twelve spies into the Promised Land.
Ten return with fear.
They focus on giants instead of God.
They see themselves as grasshoppers.

And because of that fear, an entire generation died in the wilderness.

Fear didn’t just delay their destiny—it stole it.

Final Thoughts: Choose Destiny, Not Excuses

You don’t drift into destiny.
You build it—with bold obedience, sacrificial commitment, and courageous faith.

“You were made for more. But you won’t get there if you keep playing small.” — The Impossible Life Podcast

Here’s the challenge:

• Kill disobedience with instant obedience

• Kill comfort with sacrificial love

• Kill fear with unwavering faith

Your future is waiting. Your purpose is real.
Don’t be the reason you miss it.